A few days before my wedding, my grandmother asked me what kind of bride do I hope to be. I wasn’t quite clear on her question so I asked her to further clarify, and she said… “well do you hope to be traditional and elegant, romantic, glamorous, beachy or laid back?” She then went on to say that a brides dress usually dictates the type of bride they will be on their big day.
I told her…unconventional!
Typically I don’t like being put into a category because I feel like I always share a mix of more than one thing, and since my wedding didn’t technically fit into one box, the easiest way for me to describe my overall style was unconventional. I must admit, she did look a little unsettled and later asked if she could see my dress. This made things a bit harder for me because she was expecting a princess style gown, filled with layers of tulle and instead I showed her ‘a plain, long, white dress’. Her response… “well you sure are an unconventional bride,”
For starters, I never was the “poofy” ball gown type of gal. I’ve always seen myself in a soft, delicate and feminine silhoutte accented by lace and sheer detailing. Unfortunately, finding a dress that I liked within budget was much harder than expected. When I exhausted the search bar in google and skimmed through all the wedding blogs and dress websites I sort of gave up for a while and decided I would continue my hunt later.
A few weekends later I went on to one of my favorite shopping websites [HouseOfCB] to order a dress for an all white event I had to attend. While skimming through HouseOfCB my heart literally skipped a beat! There it was…staring right back at me in a place I would least expect to find it. That night I found my wedding dress!
I didn’t think about it. I didn’t give myself time to question anything. I purchased it the same night my eyes saw it because I loved the dress and at the time that’s all that mattered to me. It was a very understated dress but it hit the perfect balance between sexy and elegant while tying in perfectly with our style of a more intimate wedding at the courthouse. Plus, the price was perfect….actually it was more than perfect in comparison to the USD$4000 dress I originally had my eye on.
The silhouette of the dress offered a super modern alternative to frilly, poofy and lacy frocks that the typical bride would wear and something about being different sparked a fire inside of me. After all, who ever said a long, flowing gown is a must-have on the big day? As far as I know there is no wedding rule book that says this—so why not switch things up a bit to make my wedding unique? I told myself that I just needed to find something that made me feel absolutely gorgeous on my special day, and the dress I went with did just that!
I once read that style, class and good taste does not yell, it whispers. That was my outlook on my wedding dress and my wedding in general. I went with a minimalistic dress instead of a wedding gown, a courthouse instead of a mansion and side swept curls instead of a sophisticated hairstyle with a bridal veil. Yep! I think there is a refined simplicity that speaks far louder volumes than fussy and over-the-top. [BTW…I love the grande weddings and poofy wedding dresses, I’m just saying it isn’t for everyone…it isn’t for me.]
I absolutely loved my super-romantic without all of the fuss dress, that is bound to
Tip 1: Stay open minded when looking for your wedding dress. You never know where you may find your dream dress, so don’t limit yourself to just searching bridal stores because your dream dress may be online at your favorite shopping website, in a department store, or even at a vintage flea market. Anything labeled wedding typically dictates a higher price tag. So as soon as something is called a ‘wedding dress,’ the price goes up which can get pretty tough when on the hunt for a budget friendly wedding dress. So when you’re out shopping always be on the look out for that dress. You may surprise yourself with what you find.
Tip 2: You’re probably going to wear your wedding dress once in your lifetime (though not always). I know, I know, pictures last a lifetime and that’s probably why you’re willing to spend a few thousand dollars on a dress you’ll only wear for a few hours. BUT, your ability to afford it is something both you and your spouse should consider because it’s important for your future together. The last thing any couple wants is to start off their future together in debt. I suggest to go dress shopping with a realistic, budget in mind and stick to that budget no matter what. Plus, I’m a firm believer in getting the most out of a purchase and I see nothing wrong with going with a dress that you can wear on your wedding day and way beyond the ceremony [that’s what I plan to do #NoShame].
Dress: HouseOfCB [sold out]
Talk Soon. Nuff Love, Natasha ♥