My Natural Hair Journey

Welcome to my very first Curly Gal post!

Jamaican Natural Hair Blogger

Ever since my hair journey started, it has become important for me to ensure that my fellow naturalista’s feel confident rocking their natural hair, whether long or short, 3b or 4c, because I struggled to embrace my hair in the beginning of my journey. I was always doubtful of my natural hair and hid behind my long straight tresses for many years. It has been a little over a year since I did the big chop and over this time I have learned to love my hair more than ever before.

I receive emails and direct messages all the time from ladies always asking me about my hair care routine and wanting to know how and when did I go natural. Today I think I’ll tackle my hair journey and don’t worry the posts that follow will go into my hair care routine. I truly hope my story will inspire you to love your hair whether relaxed or natural–long or short.

Well then…Shall we begin?

hair art

My hair was first relaxed at the age of 9. My mom, like many other mothers I know, didn’t take the time to learn what products and techniques would help her best manage my hair. But—I got my first relaxer so young, I was never able to discover the beauty of my natural hair. Straight hair was all I knew and even as a young adult when the curiosity of my natural tresses sparked, I had a hard time leaving behind the ‘the creamy crack’ (aka relaxer).

Post BIG-CHOP

post big chop

I encountered many failed attempts at transitioning, which believe it or not left me emotionally drained. I constantly studied hair typing charts and would talk myself out of going natural after comparing my hair to others. You see, I had always used my hair as a way of defining who I was (Natasha, the girl with the long, straight hair), so I could not imagine myself as ‘Natasha the girl with SHORT, natural hair.’

 

Transitioning Phase

Transition

Well…after many failed attempts at transitioning I was finally able to go relaxer free for one year, yet I still could not muster up the courage to let go of my long hair. Well, crazily enough I found myself up late one night, hair stalking on some natural hair blogs and I stumbled on a quote saying “a girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life”-Coco Chanel,  and right below was a clip of India Arie’s song “I am not my hair” along with the lyrics. I listened to a song that I clearly knew, but never paid attention to and that night I seriously felt like India was singing that song specifically for me. You see, back then I happened to be that girl who hid behind her long, straight hair; one who was too afraid to big chop because of fear of judgment. CHANELThat night I made the decision to redefine myself, by focusing on inner beauty rather than outer. I put the song on repeat, grabbed my scissors, and that night I just “LET IT ALL GO.”

 

The Day After My Big Chop

Jamaican Natural Hair Blogger- BIG CHOP DAY

Now, I can’t speak for everyone, but when it came on to going back natural I made a lot of excuses. It seems so trivial to me now when I look back at how fear prolonged my natural hair journey. I would frighten my own self by over thinking what people would say or think if I cut off all my hair. I mean, let’s face it, many of us have been conditioned to believe that our hair is of a lesser quality. I know, I know it’s hard to admit, but many of us still think ‘our’ natural hair is unattractive. Natural hair was something I never considered because, quite frankly, I never had the confidence to rock it–And who could blame me? We live in a society where straighter hair is seen as “more beautiful” than kinky hair that is often labeled with adjectives like “unkempt”, “ugly”, “unprofessional”, and still, even after a year of being fully natural I still get asked ‘when do you plan on relaxing it?’ or ‘you’re hair used to be so long, why don’t you straighten it?’

But to anyone who is scared of going natural, my message is simple; always remember that it is YOUR hair. Regardless of anyone’s opinion, your hair should be representative of you and no one else, because at the end of the day, it is YOU who has to look in the mirror and see yourself. Don’t allow anyone to define your beauty, focus on inner beauty just as equally as you do on outer beauty. Lastly, don’t get caught up trying to determine your exact hair type, try to avoid comparing different curly and kinky haired girls to your own texture; instead focus on having HEALTHY HAIR.

My Hair TodayJamaican Natural Hair Blogger

The song, I AM NOT MY HAIR opened my eyes, go give it a listen, and hopefully it will have the same effect on you.

36 Comments

  1. Trishana Thoms
    September 26, 2014 / 11:33 am

    Been following u on insta a few wks now n everything I c ur hair am like her natural hair is so pretty I myself tried transition n nvr work so yesterday after thinking wat everybody is gonna think n hesitating I said u kno wat I am not my hair n I did d big chop kina hard getting use to but I love it.. P. S Avent been outside yet so Avent start getting those stares and comments… But u inspire me and am gonna rock my natural hair

    • September 26, 2014 / 11:49 am

      Thank you hun. I am so happy to be able to inspire you. I hope you continue you to follow me on this journey and I hope you will be able to use my tips to help your own self. Congrats on the big chop and good luck on your journey. Healthy hair is whats most important. Focus on that and reap the benefits that follow. Good Luck 🙂

  2. Sue Ann
    September 26, 2014 / 12:03 pm

    That was the song for me too, i did my first big chop listening to it in 2007 lol, however it only lasted a couple months, but i am proud to stay i am now a year and 6 months into my natural hair journey!! Well just wanted to say love your stuff!! I think i need you as a personal stylist! Lol #jamaicangal#mobaygal#pastAlvigal! Keep doing what you doing .

    Everyday is a fashion show and the World is your Runway!

    Bless

    • September 27, 2014 / 12:21 am

      omg you too??? That song is so powerful man, and congrats on your journey and good luck hun. ALVGal a #1

  3. September 26, 2014 / 4:41 pm

    Hey! Congratulations on your new site!I loved reading this, totally agree with avoiding hair type comparisons. Got to love the hair that you’ve got! Best wishes! Xo

    • September 27, 2014 / 12:17 am

      Thank you hun, and I’m happy you enjoyed the read. 😉

  4. Olivia.S
    September 26, 2014 / 8:02 pm

    Hello. I read your blog and I’ve viewed your instagram on many occasions. Also, love your hair but I’m curious as to what chemical you use to define your curls?

    • September 27, 2014 / 12:16 am

      Thank you hun. No chemicals at all, I will do a post in the following weeks ahead on my hair products and my hair routine, so please stay tuned. 🙂 (I’ll do my best to also include photos of my favorite natural hair products. But my three most used products are the curl enhancing smoothie and the raw restorative conditioner by Shea Moisture and coconut oil. 🙂

  5. Camile Brown
    September 26, 2014 / 8:42 pm

    Natasha am soo uberly excited for this blog man, I have been waiting!! The thing is you can never please people , no matter what dession you make. they always tend to have some problem with it regardless!

    • September 27, 2014 / 12:10 am

      I’m so happy you’re exited…SO AM I lol…. and You are so right hun. You definitely will never be able to please anyone.

  6. Msphat
    September 28, 2014 / 6:39 pm

    So so excited for you Natasha, I honestly just know u on Instagram by following you. You style keeps everyone waiting for the next post. Keep doing what you do mama my little curly hair/fashionista crush!! Lots of love and good luck on your journey

  7. September 29, 2014 / 11:56 am

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  8. Danielle
    October 1, 2014 / 12:26 pm

    I have been in love since I stumbled across your IG a couple months ago .. And your hair is sooo healthy & beautiful ! Can’t wait for your hair care post. So many of us in JA have natural hair but most don’t know how to properly take care of it. Continue to be such an amazing young woman & inspiration 🙂 xoxo

    • October 13, 2014 / 12:12 pm

      thank you hun. In case it missed you, my natural hair journey has been added to the blog.

      xoxo
      natasha

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  11. Andreanna
    October 4, 2014 / 2:58 pm

    I love every single word of this post. You are so encouraging and I LOVE your hair! I think going back natural is the best decision I’ve ever made. Congrats on your new site xx

    • October 4, 2014 / 3:35 pm

      thank you hun. Happy you’re enjoying my site and also your hair journey. & I totally agree with you, going back naturally is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. As small and silly as it seems to some people, it really meant a lot to me to big chop and it has left me with a sense of empowerment ever since. good luck on your journey love.

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    • October 12, 2014 / 12:22 pm

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  16. mischy
    November 7, 2014 / 8:34 pm

    absolutely love this post. I am currently going through the same thing, constantly being asked when am gonna creme my hair “how am wicked to cut off my long hair” or how am just going through a phase. I just smile and say nope. not this time. so many temporary options out there if I get bored;wigs etc. never submitting to the cremey crack again.I still haven’t fully embraced my natural hair tho. but I’m getting there. keep inspiring us natural gals….much love.

    • November 10, 2014 / 11:02 am

      Oh yes I am still getting that…”I’m going through a phase” but I’m happy you are staying true to yourself. No More Creamy Crack lol

      Good Luck on Your Journey Love
      xoxo
      Natasha

  17. November 10, 2014 / 5:44 am

    Hmm it appears like your blog ate my first comment (it was super long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I had written and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I as well am an aspiring blog writer but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any recommendations for beginner blog writers? I’d really appreciate it.

    • November 10, 2014 / 11:08 am

      Thank you so much, and I’m happy you are enjoying the blog so far. I am also new to the whole blogging world and learning as I go along but I think good quality photos are important so invest in a good quality camera. It doesnt have to be expensive but ensure the quality of the photos are good. I also strongly believe in staying true to oneself, so never lose sight of that. Be yourself as much as you can rather than putting on a front for your readers. Hope this helped you a bit.

      xoxo
      Natasha

  18. February 10, 2015 / 4:01 pm

    Awesome! Good luck on your natural hair journey! I’m 3 years into my own journey and it’s been a great experience. I’m sure yours will turn out to be great too!

    • February 10, 2015 / 7:42 pm

      thank you so much, I’m enjoying everything about my hair so far. Good Luck with yours too

  19. Rachel Chen
    August 15, 2015 / 2:14 pm

    Beautiful post Natasha!
    Can’t believe it’s taken me so long to get to your blog. Great work!!!
    xx